Gentleness. It seems almost out of place in the list of attributes that make up the fruit of the Spirit. Of all the sermons I’ve heard in my lifetime, I don’t remember “gentleness” coming up, except in the middle of a list of the fruit of the Spirit.
Gentleness seems even more out of place when we consider that Paul is the one who is the author of the list. Boldness seems more Paul’s style, as we see in his rebuke to the high priest who commanded him to be smitten (Acts 23:1–5), his parting words to the unbelieving Jews in Rome (Acts 28:23–28), and his words in opposition to Peter’s hypocrisy (Galatians 2:11–14). But Paul himself gives us a hint of the virtue of gentleness when he speaks of his reputation among the Corinthians: “I, Paul, who am ‘timid’ when face to face with you, but ‘bold’ toward you when away! I beg you that when I come I may not have to be as bold as I expect to be toward some people who think that we live by the standards of this world” (II Corinthians 10:1,2). Paul was definitely bold, when the situation demanded it, but his preferred method of approach was gentleness.
One of my favorite moments in Revelation comes after John weeps and weeps because no one is found worthy to open a scroll, and one of the elders tells him not to worry, because the triumphant Lion of the tribe of Judah is able to open the seals. It’s at that moment that Jesus appears – not as a conquering lion but as a lamb that had been sacrificed (Revelation 5:1–10). How incredibly blessed we are that our Savior comes to us first as “the Lamb who takes away the sins the world” (John 1:29) before he comes as the sovereign Lord who will judge the inhabitants of the earth (Revelation 6:10).
In the parable of the unforgiving servant (Matthew 18:21–35), Jesus calls us to this same gentleness, reminding us that, as we have received patient, gentle mercy, we have an obligation to show the same to those around us. Consider this carefully as you go through your day. We have many opportunities to be cruel, harsh, and judgmental (even if only in our thoughts – or our gossipy, hurtful comments to others – and not our actions), but God’s desire is for us to respond in gentleness. Paul puts it this way: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32).
“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law” (Galatians 5:22,23, NIV2011). In this four-part series, we are taking a look at some of the less-commonly discussed attributes in this list. As we seek to move and grow in the Spirit, let us make an effort to excel in every aspect the fruit of the Spirit.
Otis A. Fortenberry